Being There On Her Big Day
This story is about a stepdad, who shared his story under the name godzilla_moon on Reddit. His only intention of sharing this story was that he wanted to know whether he was being illogical.
He really thought that he was part of the family as he was in his stepdaughter’s life for more than ten years. Yet, what happened on her wedding day entirely changed it and his expectations were shattered.
A Part Of The Family
If truth be told, godzilla_moon had been living almost a decade with his partner and the bride-to-be. He cared for the family and ensured that he provided them with everything they needed.
He even paid for the schooling of her stepdaughter when it was time for her to graduate from high school and go to college. As a result, he was in debt of $40,000, yet he didn’t care. She was like his own daughter to him.
Spoiling Her
He didn’t just pay her college fees. Moreover, he allowed his stepdaughter to live in their house with him and her mother during college. He even bought her a car as a high school graduation present.
He just wanted to keep her happy. When his stepdaughter found the man that she wanted to marry, it was important for godzilla_moon as well. He even agreed to pay for her wedding as her biological father was not there.
The “Real” Dad
As godzilla_moon was in his stepdaughter’s life for a long time, he regarded her as his own daughter. Yet, he noticed that there was another “father figure” in her life in one of the Reddit posts.
Her biological father never cared for her when she needed him the most. But now he was appearing back in her life now and again. Godzilla_moon feared that her biological father would ultimately leave her breaking her heart.
Leaving Her Broken-Hearted
Though the bride-to-be’s biological father neglected all his duties as a father, she never stopped viewing him as her father. She was well aware that her father broke her heart and always left her without any warning.
Yet, she was happy to have her place in his life! She didn’t understand that her biological father was not good, but rather her stepdad was the one who took care of her. This drove godzilla_moon mad.
Not Paying His Way
In his Reddit story, godzilla_moon also said that the “deadbeat” dad never dared to pay any child support or any financial support to her mother. Also, he didn’t mind paying for the wedding as well. So it was godzilla_moon who offered to take care of the expenses of the wedding.
He was so happy to bear all the expenses until his stepdaughter made a shocking announcement at a family dinner. She said that her biological father would walk her down the aisle and he had agreed to it. This made godzilla_moon so unhappy.
All Too Much
This declaration was the issue that was finally too much to bear for godzilla_moon because he had arrived at the end of his tether. His irritation had been rising since the time he was denied the opportunity to invite some members close to the family.
Godzilla_moon thought that it was not fair for him to allow to invite only 20 guests to his stepdaughter’s wedding, even as he was the one who was paying for the wedding. The place could have 250 people and there was more than enough space.
Not Even Named
The stepdad was so upset with the announcement that his stepdaughter just made. He was spending all his money on her, but the bride-to-be didn’t care about it. It seemed that she had forgotten all that godzilla_moon did for her.
Unfortunately, it was not the only thing! He asked one of his golf friends to check the wedding notice to see whether his stepdaughter had named him on it. And she wasn’t! Despite all the things godzilla_moon did to his stepdaughter, she was ignoring him entirely.
All Coming Out
Godzilla_moon decided to talk about all pain he had with his partner, without tolerating it quietly. As she was the mother of the bride-to-be, he thought that she would be able to change her daughter’s decisions.
Nonetheless, his partner did not agree with him, but rather she took her daughter’s side. She further told him that they can’t include godzilla_moon’s friend to the guest list. At long last, this conversation ended in a fight.
Getting Ready
Godzilla_moon argued and fought with his partner on a Saturday evening, yet they had to forget their fight for the time-being as they had celebrations on the next day. His stepdaughter and her husband-to-be had organized a family meal for families to get along with each other.
Godzilla_moon prayed that her biological father would not attend the meal. Unfortunately, his prayers were not strong enough to keep his stepdaughter’s biological father away, instead, godzilla_moon saw him in the gathering.
Making The Announcement
Everyone was sat at the tables and all the members of two families had joined for the gathering. Then godzilla_moon’s stepdaughter made the announcement. She was so happy that her biological father would attend the wedding.
And, sadly, she further stated that her biological father agreed to walk her down the aisle! The crowd was amazed at her announcement and there was one person among the crowd, who was not happy with it. Indeed it was bride-to-be’s stepfather. He was so mad that he couldn’t control his anger.
Keeping His Cool
Even though godzilla_moon wanted to shout and throw out his anger, he decided to stay calm. He didn’t want to destroy his stepdaughter’s dinner, yet even he couldn’t keep his thoughts to himself.
Thus, he made a plan to show everyone what he felt about the decision his stepdaughter took. When his stepdaughter, to whom he cared for a decade finished her announcement, he stood up to make his one.
Making A Toast
Indeed, the stepfather needed to make a toast. This is frequently customary during family social gatherings and special events, yet this one would be somewhat unique. Be that as it may, he would not like to get directly to the negatives.
He needed to calm the visitors into a misguided sensation that all is well and good and expressed that it had been a delight to invest all his money with his family over the previous decade. More than anything, he felt that he needed to thank the bride and groom for teaching him something.
Listening Intently
The guests of the gathering had no idea about godzilla_moon’s speech and they were not prepared for what was coming next. First, they thought that he would make a heart touching speech and they were listening eagerly.
Guess what did he thank the bride and groom for? He expressed gratitude toward them for making him understand that he wasn’t exactly the person he thought he was. All things considered, he imagined that he held a solid spot in their family, yet he before long understood this wasn’t correct.
Not Over Yet
Nonetheless, he wasn’t finished with his speech yet. He further said that he was stupid enough to think that he was loved and admired as a family member in everyone’s heart, but that he understood the truth.
He said that he was merely a “cash machine” and he was used to get a luxurious life. He declared that he felt like a “good stream of money, but not much else.” Consequently, he had made a decision and he wanted to share it with everyone.
Denying His Request
Above all, godzilla_moon desperately wanted to invite one of his golf buddies to the wedding. He was close to his stepdaughter. He was astonished when he ran into him and heard that he wasn’t invited.
But, he was aware of the marriage. That’s because he had received a notice in the mail which was about their nuptials. Godzilla_moon then realized that almost all the people that he wanted to be invited to the wedding just got this nuptial notice, not an invitation!
It’s Over
When godzilla_moon spoke to the groom, he realized that he had one more thing to say. As he had been removed from the notice of their nuptials, the wedding invitations, and the wedding ceremony, he decided to cancel his offer.
After all, as he was not a part of the wedding, why should he pay for it? He claimed that this responsibility should be gone to the bride-to-be’s biological father as he had an immense place in his stepdaughter’s life.
Not His Problem
The stepfather made it clear that he was not going to pay for the wedding and also, he wanted to make more conditions clear. He said that he could pay for his partner and her daughter anymore.
He wanted them to move out of their house and he said that he would cancel all the joint accounts as it was all his money. He further declared that the bride’s “real dad” could take care of them now.
Giving Us An Update
Godzilla_moon’s Reddit thread was trending. Many people appreciated him for being real. Nevertheless, they wanted an update about what happened next. Godzilla_moon was more than happy to give them an update.
He noted that both his partner and her daughter had moved away from his house in a later post. They had to make changes to her wedding as without godzilla_moon’s money, they couldn’t afford to have some expensive features.
Making It Known
Indeed, godzilla_moon’s girlfriend didn’t dare to move out without a fight. She argued with her partner and she even struggled to change his mind on the decision he took. She did a lot of things to do so.
She even made a copy of the wedding plan to show godzilla_moon and what her daughter had been doing to make her big day perfect. She further said that he would be “ruining” her expectations. Yet, godzilla_moon was not ready to change his decision.
The Nail In The Coffin
Godzilla_moon was happy with his decision when he saw the wedding plans. As he scoured through the pages and pages of details, he came across a couple of areas that grabbed his attention.
Inside the segment that based on the traditional father-daughter dance, he understood that his ex-stepdaughter had picked songs that her biological dad liked. Close by this, she also provided the wedding menu to her dad’s taste. He realized that he was not supposed to be a part of that wedding.
The Right Move
He was sad to see the people he thought as his family moved out of his house, but at the same time, he was happy to get rid of them. He knew he made the right decision because of what happened next.
After one or two hours he drained their joint accounts, and something interesting happened. His ex-partner had tried to get some money from their “joint account” through a cheque as she had to live on her own now. Gratefully, godzilla_moon had timed it perfectly
Losing Some Money
Although godzilla_moon was able to save all his money before the wedding, he still lost some money as he had already paid some money for some parts of the wedding and the checks had been cashed.
He could get refunds for some items, but the place they booked for the wedding was not ready to refund him the full amount. As a result, he lost around $1,500. Nevertheless, he could have lost more money if he didn’t make the right decision.
Furious Responses
Reddit users were enraged to read what godzilla_moon had to go through. Many people had written about their ideas as it was clear that what happened to godzilla_moon was not fair.
One woman wrote, “As a woman, and as a mother, it shames me to see women acting like this towards someone like you. It is women like this that give the rest of us a bad name and label many as ‘gold diggers.’ I don’t know if it is the culture, background, or upbringing, but I can surely say that it is your right to do what you did, and should NEVER feel bad about it!”
What Would You Do?
Reddit user breeskyv wrote to godzilla_moon on Reddit, “You handled that beautifully. I’m a young woman with both a real dad and stepdad in my life that I love very much. I’ve often wondered which would walk me down the aisle.”
She also said, “My two dads hate each other so I worry about offending the other. Would you have felt better if she asked both of you to walk her down the aisle? As in one dad on each arm?”
Different Story
Guess how godzilla_moon answered? “Your situation is probably different than ours,” he told her. Most of the Reddit users agreed with him about what he did and few people disagreed with him.
Godzilla_moon also said, “If the real dad contributed time and money to raising you throughout your life, shared the stress of bringing up a teenage girl rather than contributing to it, then you should be fine. Ask them both to meet you, ask them to do it as a favour to you. No man could refuse that.”
Not Innocent
Even though godzilla_moon attempted to view himself as the protagonist of the story, many Reddit users did not agree with him.“Something’s not sitting right with me. Can’t help it,” said one Redditor before explaining why.
He went on saying, “The people I’ve known where their parents saw them as parasites were situations where the parents allowed them to be parasites, and controlled and manipulated them with money. I honestly don’t think he’s innocent in any of it.”
Disrespect Or Overreaction?
The same idea was displayed by some other Redditors as well. Another Reddit user said that godzilla_moon’s partner and daughter were horrible, but how he acted was also wrong. “Yeah, I’m kind of feeling what you’re saying,” came an assenting voice.
“Incredible disrespect from his side of the story, but an overreaction if the subject of him being excluded hadn’t been talked about before.” In fact, people started talking about whether goodzilla_moon did was an overreaction or not.
All For Respect
“This isn’t the hero we need or deserve,” the Redditor kept on saying. “This isn’t a victory for the little guy. This is an angry and self-centered man, making a spectacle to ease his hurt pride.”
He said that how the girlfriend and her daughter behaved was terrifying.“I sympathize with that. I get it. What I don’t get is how you can expect a position of honour that is based on love when it’s painfully obvious that you wanted it for ‘respect.’”
Child Abandonment?
Some Reddit users even started commenting on harsh responses. “You ABANDONED your kid,” one Redditor wrote to godzilla_moon. It seemed that he was so upset regarding the situation.
He also said; “I can see you walking out on paying for the wedding. Even being mad. I can see you raising a stink. But as you said, you cut both of them out of your life forever. Let me make this clear: you cut the child YOU raised out of your life FOREVER. You said you want to be treated like a ‘real father?’ REAL FATHERS DON’T CUT THEIR DAUGHTERS OUT OF THEIR LIFE.”
“You’re Disgusting”
This Redditor also questioned godzilla_moon, “What makes you any better than her natural father? You’re disgusting.” Abruptly, it seemed that there were many people to support godzilla_moon.
Someone using handle SRSLovesGawker claimed that men deal with “a lot of nonsense,” but at the same time “require very little in return, but those things we require are absolute. Those things are respect, consideration, and appreciation.” As he didn’t receive this, he was right to cut them off. “No…they cut him out,” another Redditor disagreed. “He finally decided to go along with it.”
Is It Real?
While it was expected that the story was genuine, a few things proposed that it might have been a made-up story. For one, godzilla_moon is a username associated with only a bunch of posts, every one of them identified with this viral story.
Moreover, these were completely informed in a short measure of time. He didn’t react to numerous questions. It’s understandable that this was to ensure the protection of the step father’s privacy, yet there could be another clarification.
Inconclusive
Some have called attention to that this abrupt vanishing could show a fabrication. Truth be told, the subject of whether this is genuine or not was explored by Snopes a few years after the story initially broke. The report called attention to that none of the major parts in the story had any genuine turn of events or change, rather than staying single-dimensional.
Moreover, Snopes said it depended “heavily on deeply entrenched stereotypes of shiftless women and the meal-ticket men they routinely drain dry.” Despite this, nothing is indisputable, so it’s dependent upon you to choose.